I am trying something new today. I just saw this "5 Minute Friday" post concept at Mom's Don't Say That, you get a topic and link up at LisaJoBaker.com. The beauty of it is, you're only supposed to take FIVE MINUTES to do the post, no over-thinking, over-editing, just what comes to mind in 5 minutes. Sounds like something I can actually DO for once.
The theme today is "Together" and the first thing I think of is my 2 daughters, because we're ALWAYS together. Every beautiful minute of every glorious day. One is sitting on my lap now, which has ALREADY made this post take more than five minutes. Which is totally fine, blogging will always be there, my girls will only be this small and cute and WANT to be together with me for so long. I treasure every minute, as I have a teenager, who thinks he wants nothing to do with me right now.
The girls & I are together all day almost like conjoined triplets, as I stay home and watch extra kids in my home, and right now I would have it no other way! Well, I wouldn't mind a baby sitter every now and then, parents need some alone time and a break from the chaos.
(Speaking of the chaos, the younger one just jumped up on my lap and I had to stop so yes, I started this almost 15 minutes ago now, but I haven't been writing for 5 minutes yet.)
I used to be together with my husband non-stop for years, probably because when we first started dating we couldn't be together very often. I was a single mom, and the only time I would go out were the days my son would go with his dad, usually Tuesdays and Thursdays and parts of every other weekend. Those were the only days we hung out for a long time.
He actually had to have a talk with me, at the advice of our mutual friend, about that. I realized I was afraid to introduce him to my son, and we had been dating for SIX MONTHS. It was obvious we felt strongly about each other and this was going somewhere. Our friend kept saying "It's time." It was. I was just a total scardey cat. Skardey cat? How do you spell that? (Part of the deal with 5MF is not to over-think.)
Anyway, once he met my son Tinny, it got a lot better. They got along fine and we could see each other more often, and it was obvious I waited too long to introduce them. We have been together, every minute of every day, ever since for years. Literally because we worked together, we would go to lunch together, and hang out after work. Every minute of every day for years. You really get to know someone.
We have many flaws, but we obviously get along. If you can spend that much time with someone, especially someone I THOUGHT I hated when I first met him, you marry that person. It turned out I don't hate him, we just had communication issues we worked out. And "Work Alex" is kind of a dick. Meh, it happens.
(Interrupted again, no idea how long I've been writing. THIS is why I don't blog often :)
Soooooo, we've been together 9 years now, almost exactly because our first date was mid-October. Neither of us can remember the exact date, he thinks October 18 was our first date. This is why people celebrate their wedding anniversary. For us, that wasn't the best day, that was just the day we made it legal with an Elvis impersonator. Because Vegas.
But the point is, the DATE of the wedding is in our brains because of all the PAPERWORK! I feel more passionately about the anniversary of our first date, or the date we moved in to our first TOGETHER HOUSE here in ComfyTown, but we're not exactly sure when that date is either.
We don't celebrate certain dates, even when we tried, we can never get a sitter on those dates, it's more hassle than it's worth right now, we celebrate every day. We treasure our time together, together with family, which is all the sweeter because we met late in life, and neither of us had ever felt so comfortable, so right with anyone else, so very TOGETHER before we met each other.
Right with the little ones, that means there isn't a log of US together, but now it's WE together, so it's a beautiful thing.
Hopefully one day the kids will be more independent and OUR together time will return, and in the meantime we are happy to be together with our babies, who love to be together with us every second of every day. They are very lovey and from the very SECOND he pulls in the driveway after work, he has a little 2-girl parade to EVERY ROOM in the house! They stop following me, and start following Daddy. Good thing he loves all the together!
I have no idea if that was 5 minutes, or if this makes any sense, and this is probably why I don't blog on the fly much.